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Here's how to do the "3 Minute Jealous Thought Stopper"...
 

1st-- SIT-- Sit in a quiet place. (The bathroom will do).

2. SETTLE--  Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, bringing your breath into your feet so that you feel grounded and connected to the earth. Feel yourself slowing down and your breathing deepen. (Maybe 30 seconds)

3. AWARENESS--  Come into awareness of your jealous thoughts in this moment. (What exactly are you thinking? You might even want to ask yourself... "I'm thinking that_______)." And then fill in the blank with what you're thinking. No judging!

4. ASK-- Ask yourself if you know your jealous thoughts to be true--absolutely true. What evidence do you have to support these thoughts? Whether you think your thoughts are true or not true, bring your attention to your heart or gut area and
feel the sensations in your body. (What are you feeling in your body? Is there tightness, a big knot, emptiness, heaviness?)

5. ALLOW-- Allow your sensations to be there without judging them and breathe into that area of the body. (If you feel heavy in your heart area, breathe into that heaviness until the sensation softens. If you feel a "knot" in your gut area, breathe into that knot until it starts to loosen.)

6. REPLACE-- Replace the jealous "movie" running in your head to one that is more in alignment with what you want in your life--because the reality is that both outcomes are possible.

Here's why the "3 Minute Jealous Thought Stopper" works and an example of how to use it...

If you know that your jealous thoughts aren't true but you see yourself being cheated on or your partner leaving you anyway, replace that movie with a favorite memory from the past with your partner or special moments between the two of you that are happening in the present or could happen in the future.

Here's why this incredibly simple technique of "running a new or different movie" in your mind when jealous thoughts come up is so amazing...

It's an absolute scientifically-proven fact that your brain cannot tell the difference between seeing something that's real and seeing something that you only imagine in your mind's eye.

Why else does your mouth actually salivate when you imagine yourself cutting open a fresh lemon and opening your mouth to take a big bite of it?

It's your body's reaction to something that you only imagined.

The same is true of jealousy.

When you imagine your partner wanting to be with someone else (or whatever keeps you up at night), you are running and re-running that movie until it becomes very real to you.

If you want to change this movie that is manufactured in your brain, our jealous thought stopper can actually dissolve it--and help you to stop being jealous.

The truth is...jealousy is a habit and it's a habit that can be broken.

For 21 days, every time your jealous thoughts come up, do this technique and you won't believe how much ease you will begin to feel.

This is one of the techniques that Susie used to help her put an end to jealousy that was between us and we know it can help you too.

What if your jealous thoughts ARE true and cheating is really going on?

If you know there is truth to your suspicions, we still advise you to practice this technique.

Instead of your new "movie" being a favorite memory, you might see yourself taking your next step in an empowered way instead of continuing your jealous cycle.

This "3 Minute Jealous Thought Stopper" is a great way to help you get some instant relief from your jealous thoughts.

这一刻 突然觉得好熟悉
This moment suddenly feels so familiar
像昨天 今天同时在放映
It is like yesterday and today are screening at the same time
我这句语气 原来好像你
This tone of mine now is like yours
不就是我们爱过的证据
And that is the evidence that we had been in love

差一点 骗了自己骗了你
Almost deceived myself and deceived you
爱与被爱不一定成正比
Loving and being love is not always equal
我知道被疼是一种运气
I know it takes luck to be pampered
但我无法完全交出自己
But I am unable to give myself away completely

努力为你改变
Striving to change myself for you
却变不了 预留的伏线
But I cannot change the borderline that i reserved not to change
以为在你身边 那也算永远
Thought that when we're together, it means forever
彷佛还是昨天
It's like we're still in yesterday
可是昨天 已非常遥远
But yesterday is already so far away
但闭上双眼 我还看得见
But when i close my eyes, i can still see yesterday...

可惜不是你 陪我到最后
It is a pity that it is not you who will accompany me till the end
曾一起走却走失那路口
We uses to walk together but got lost at that intersection
感谢那是你 牵过我的手
Thank you for once holding my hand
还能感受那温柔
I can still feel that tenderness

那一段 我们曾心贴著心
Back then, we kept our hearts in touch
我想我更有权力关心你
I thought I have the right to care about you
可能你 已走进别人风景
Maybe you have already walked into the scenery of another person
多希望 也有 星光的投影
How I hope that I, too, will have the projection of starlight

Note : Most of the informations are obtained from other sites. It is NOT by me.

How do I know that I have a healthy relationship with someone?

• You know that you are in a healthy relationship with someone because you feel good about yourself when you are around that person. Unhealthy relationships can make you feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
• Healthy peer relationships involve an equal amount of give and take in the relationship. In unhealthy relationships, there is an unfair balance. You may feel that most of the time you are giving the other person more attention than they give to you.
• You should feel safe around the other person and feel that you can trust him/her with your secrets. In a healthy relationship, you like to spend time with the other person, instead of feeling like you're pressured into spending time with them. Unhealthy relationships do not include trust and respect, which are very important parts of a family relationship, good friendship, or dating relationship. No one deserves to be in an unhealthy relationship.

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?

Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:

• Mutual respect. Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.
• Trust. You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.
• Honesty. This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground.
• Support. It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get the lead in a play.
• Fairness/equality. You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.
• Separate identities. In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.
• Good communication. You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.

Too bad, i am stronger and cleverer than you thought.

The law of attraction (which Tom disagrees with the term totally) says that when you long for something, you keep thinking bout it and you’ll get it.

And guess i really wanted too much drama in life (good drama not bad ones), and my life is so freakin dramatic. Wansien said watching my life is like watching a korean drama. =.=

Anyway, you guys know what happened?

Someone added me recently, claiming to be Tom’s good friend – David. And said, he really had to tell me this and please don’t be heart broken but Tom actually has another girlfriend ever since he moved to Australia. His girlfriend there is Katrina Olsen, from Sydney.

He said Tom is just playing around with me, and stuff like that.

He said something convincing like, ‘you’re gonna take law right? Tom told me.’, and ‘Tom chatted with me lately and said you guys had a fight because you thought he’s having exam and wanna give him space. Actually it’s because Katrina is suspecting so he can’t come online so often.’

I almost believed him. Because not many people know i’ve been having some problems with Tom recently. I only tell some friends, so i was thinking who i told, and thinking who could be making this joke on me.

This David guy asked me to promise not to tell Tom bout it, and straightaway i said, ‘oh i don’t think i could promise that’. But, he told me anyway, without hesitation.

And he even gave me the girl’s email and said i could try to chat with the girl then i’ll know, but don’t blow my cover.

He said he knows Tom when he was in Brunei, he’s not sure where Tom is originally from. He said he’s now in germany and is online using the university’s internet connection at internet centre or whatever shit.

He even tried to ask, ‘did Tom tell you he went to Sydney recently? Like five months ago?’ He said Tom met Katrina at Sydney and has met her parents and shit like that.

And, OF COURSE I TOLD TOM EVERYTHING, DUH?

Tom did go to Sydney. But it’s not wierd for people living there to go to Sydney because it’s only 2 hours drive. And his friends, family are all there, so of course he goes to Sydney once in a while. And Tom NEVER told anyone that i am going to take law. Only a few of his friends know that we’re not quite happy these few days, but come to think about it, WE DID NOT HAVE FIGHTS OKAY?

Most ridiculous one is about David meeting Tom in Brunei, and he still said Tom is lying to me about many things, i was like, ‘’what the fuck?’’

Anyway, i know who ‘’David’’ is now i think, GAME OVER. I know who you are. Let me tell you how ridiculous you were being.

First of all you claim that you’re Tom’s good friend, i suppose you guys are really quite close huh? If not he wouldn’t tell you he’s playing around with me. Since you’re his good friend, i don’t understand why you would wanna tell me all these. Please ask some guy friends around you, i am sure they couldn’t be bothered. THEY WILL NOT EXPOSE THEIR FRIENDS.

Ok, if you’re so full of justice. And you know Katrina personally, you should be telling her, not me. IF you don’t wanna hurt Katrina and Tom’s relationship, so you choose to tell me, then why the hell would you give me Katrina’s email right? It’s like, you’re trying to see what can i create to entertain you.

I decided to shut down my heart and think using my all-time-A brain. I can almost feel that you’re smirking while typing all these. If you’re full of sympathy i WILL feel it.

I don’t need you to tell me whether my bf is cheating on me or not. I am SOO observant and sensitive. If he has 1 percent of insincere in him i would have felt it.

Isn’t it so easy for you? Read some posts of mine, tell me all those stuff you know from my posts, whenever you are not sure you assume. Whenever you assumed and it turns out to be wrong you just say Tom’s lying and i don’t know the facts. LOL.

You think i am this weak?

Thank you for making my weekend SO INTERESTING.

Please be VERY AWARE of things that are going to happen to you now. 

So yeah, GAME OVER DUDE. BOO. YOU LOSE, once again.

Please lah, don’t use your tiny brain to challenge my wisdom.